Have you struggled with finding purpose in life? Maybe you have pursued multiple avenues of purpose? Maybe you try to find joy and meaning in your relationships, with that being the only sense of identity you have…many women do this. They base their entire self concept on the relationships they have with others.
If they do not have relationships that they feel are good enough, they take on that they also are not good enough.
Even when people reach success…they find the relationship they are looking for or they reach the major goals they were striving for, sometimes that still isn’t enough to fill the emptiness inside of a person.
I heard this podcast the other day that I want to share with you. It is an interview on Success Magazine with an author, Kelly Flanagan. In the discussion, Dr. Flanagan talks about how as children we all have a sense of worthiness but that that sense of worthiness gets diminished as we get older. We start to see ourselves in a different light, partly based on the ways in which we are disappointing to others.
He talks about the importance of regaining the positive feelings you had about yourself as a child and truly trusting in your own worthiness. He takes this further, stating that you have to connect with this belief in your own worthiness before you can have a real sense of belongingness in a relationship and then you have to have both worthiness and belongingness before you can find your true purpose or passion in life.
But many people just keep trying to reach more and more accomplishments to try to prove to themselves that they are worthy…but then they don’t really feel worthy because the fact that they haven’t reached the accomplishment yet is not why they felt unworthy in the first place. In fact, if someone does not trust their worthiness, they may even be pursuing the wrong goals. This interview is pretty amazing and I recommend clicking here to listen to it. I am currently reading his book because this interview resonated with me. Check it out and let me know what you think:
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